Cat fight!
Mean Girls was an over-exaggerated movie (and pretty funny), but did somewhat portray how and why girls fight. Even for a girl, it’s all a mystery.. at least for me. What’s the point? I realized the way us girls fight never gets anywhere, never really has an end. I was talking with one of my teachers one morning and she said, “The problem with girls is that we forgive but never forget. So once two or more girls start fighting, they will drag things from the past, saying things like, ‘Three years and two months ago, you blah blah blah!!’” I realized this is so, incredibly true. After reading Diana’s blog, I got super inspired to write about this, she did such a great job. She mentioned that girls are confusing. I never really realized why, until I dug deep into my own thoughts (which believe me, took a while). I never understood why guys keep saying “girls are so confusing!!” But now I do. Girls think thouroughly, we actually think things through. But at the same time, we think TOO much. I guess I can relate, I’ve been in a couple too many ‘girl-fights’, but I can honestly say I’ve grown from them, I’ve learned. As much as we, well, maybe I should speak for myself instead because I suppose all girls are different. As much as I think about it, as much as I ‘prepare’ and plan, the same result always comes out. Someone ends up getting hurt. But you know, whenever anyone fights, someone gets hurt. And everything is in secret. We fight behind eachother’s backs; we are not usually always mean and cruel infront of the person, to their face. For example, my best friend (let’s call her Becky) was getting annoyed by me, so she told one of my enemies my ‘darkest’ secret. (This has never happened, but seems pretty typical, eh?) I have a few options here.a) I can go up to her and confront her, tell her I don’t like what she did. <– In a peaceful way, of course.b) I can go up to her and confront her, start yelling at her. Then, shut her down and don’t let her talk.. walk away. (Very peaceful..)c) Ignore her.d) Ignore the situation.e) Revenge.I cannot really think of any of any more solutions, but I am sure there are some. The most common, in my point of view, is option e) revenge. “Don’t get mad, get even.” It seems so right, it seems fair. If I could have just ignored Becky, or ignored what she had done, that wouldn’t seem like the right thing to do. Yeah, Becky should not have gone and told something I said to her in confidence to someone she knows I do not like, but it is so typical of girls. I asked a friend (a guy) what he thought of revenge. “It’s sweet,” he replied. So of course, to get more information, I asked why. “Just the rules of life. Make me suffer and you die.” Fair enough. The I asked a girl of the same age what she thought of revenge. “Mmm.. I guess it could be acceptable, but it depends on the situation.” Again, why? “It depends on the situation. I mean, it could be something positive if you’re trying to teach someone a lesson. If it’s only to be mean, then I think it is useless and it leads to nowhere, because the other person if just gonna get more revenge and it’s never going to end. And if it does, it’s not gonna end in something good.”From this, I realized not only girls like revenge, but guys aswell. The only difference I see is that boys will become friends shortly after, they will forgive and forget. Girls, on the other hand, will forigve but never forget (like I stated before). Maybe, only maybe will they become friends after, if one makes an effort. But if not, then so be it. When I asked my friend (the girl) what she thought of revenge, her answer striked me as.. very true. I agree. If you’re using revenge of something that happened years ago, and decided to deal with it now because you don’t like that person, then that is pointless. If you are trying to ‘teach someone a lesson’, the I suppose revenge is somewhat acceptable, though I believe it is riduculous and childish. Like she said, it depends on the situation. If there was conflict between countries and then five years later, one of the countries decides to get revenge, that can be very harmful and unreasonable. This leads into the topic of ‘war’. So… what I just realized, about a split-second ago, was that girl-fighting is similar to war. It’s a war between minds, a war between who can get back at eachother better. Doing little things you know really, really just gets the other person going. It’s like a cycle, a wheel. A wheel that turns and turns, but never rolls. What is the point of fighting, anyways? To resolve conflict. Yeah, sure, I’m sure there are other reasons. But in general, it is to resolve conflict. With the way girls fight, the conflict never gets resolved, not much ever changes. Feelings get hurt, opinions change, new friends are made. That’s the way I see it, the cycle of ‘girl fighting.’
